Why is my brother gay
Responding to a “Gay Christian” in the Family
First, we need you to recognize that our hearts go out to you and our prayers are with you in the midst of this painful and exasperating situation. The firestorm of conflicting emotions you’re experiencing – crying one moment, angry the next – is simply what we should expect of concerned and loving parents in your position. Your feelings are normal, understandable, and completely justified. So don’t blame yourself for reacting in this way, and don’t assume responsibility for decisions your son has made as an autonomous young adult. He’s old enough to be his control person now, and a burden of false guilt will only hinder you from showing him God’s love in the most successful way.
How do you relate to your son now that he’s told you straight out that he considers himself a “gay Christian”? Generally speaking, we suggest that you treat him as you would any other adult who is old enough to choose his own path in life. If he wishes to last in your abode, it should be on the matching basis as any other boarder, renter, or tenant. He should know the house rules (we’d recommend you provide
My brother came out when I was in high academy and he was in his adv twenties. The right way to reach out is distinct for every person. For my brother it was in a mailed letter.
I was sitting at the dining room table doing homework with my boyfriend/girlfriend when my mom came home from work and started opening the mail. She stopped halfway through the stack of envelopes and catalogs.
She went up to her room and came support down wearing a sweatsuit and said she was going for a walk.
That’s when I knew something was erroneous. My mom never went for a walk and I didn’t even grasp she owned a sweatsuit, let alone the bright alabaster sneakers that served as warning lights on her feet.
After she walked out the door, my boyfriend and I stared at each other without speaking . This wasn’t the nightly routine.
She returned hours later. She was sweaty and I could tell she had been crying.
She told my boyfriend that he needed to go home, but didn’t offer him a ride. Something life changing had happened, or was happening. I braced myself.
She said she needed to converse to me and I followed her to my room. She started talking in a tone that was forced calm, measured quiet, scary calm.
“I got this letter in
IVYBETCH
Dartmouth College '18
I knew that Josh* was gay for four months before he told my parents.
Growing up, were were never that close. We were very other people that didn't have much in common. Despite our differences, we still cared a lot about each other, even if we didn't always have much to talk about.
When my brother began shutting my parents out from his life in lofty school, the door closed on me, too. When Josh went to college, communicating with him became even more difficult. We rarely spoke, which is why when he video chatted me one day in December, I could not have been more surprised.
Our conversation started out casually, but I could tell he was apprehensive about something. Finally he said, "I have to tell you something. I'm gay."
After what felt like a year of silence I said, "That's great!" with the most genuine tone I could muster. I am not at all homophobic, but it never crossed my mind that Josh could be gay. I was in shock.
I needed time to process what I had just learned. He hooked up with girls in high school. He never really had a girlfriend, but I always just assumed that was because he was my awkward older brother.
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My Brother is Skipping My Gay Wedding But Attending A Friend’s Unbent Wedding
Q A few months ago, I married the man of my dreams. It was a gorgeous wedding, and I had so much support from family and friends who came to wish us well and be there for us as we exchanged vows.
My brother, however, decided not to arrive at the last minute because he was uncomfortable attending. I recently start out he was a groomsman for the wedding of one of his friends just a week after my wedding. Seeing him in the pictures of this other wedding party upset me, and I am having a hard time getting over it.
My brother and I were close growing up, and I had grown up expecting he would be my best bloke. He claimed to be OK with things when I came out of the closet three years ago, and he more recently assured me he would come to my wedding even though it was against his religious principles.
I later found out that he had not been OK with my coming out or engagement, but that he felt pressured into saying he was because he didn’t want to damage our relationship. I appreciate that he initially hid his discomfort from