We don't have cable so I haven't been able to monitor it yet, though I've read some about it.
It's a new reality illustrate about gay Mormon men and their wives and families, and how they cope with the conflict between their church and their sexual orientation. For me, it's compassionate of sad watching the clip above and seeing everything these guys are putting themselves through. The depression, increased suicide rates, 55-80% divorce rate, the stigma, and all the work the put into conforming, only to be alienated by the community they're trying to hard to remain in. At least they own a support group.
For me it seems incredibly unfair that someone is forced to choose between being cut off from the people they've spent their entire lives in and repressing something so fundamental about themselves, and dealing with all the psychological and sentimental problems that approach with that. I understand that every community has it's rules, both explicit and implicit, but it sad that th
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Posted by: Exmogal ( ) Date: November 26, 2014 05:51PM
How many closeted married Mormon men are there?
When I was in Utah years ago, visiting a BYU grad who lived in SLC, she told me she knew married male lover Mormon men who had boyfriends. Some of them lived in SLC and had boyfriends in other states, and some of them lived in San Fran and had boyfriends in Utah. I couldn't really grasp why they would be married and Mormon, of all things. One guy told her he liked the security of a home, wife and kids.
I knew a professor at the Y who most definitely seemed lgbtq+ (no idea other than he gave off a vibe - is gaydar real or is it just a myth?) married, with kids. I wonder if he's one of these guys and how many live this way?
I guess what I still find complicated to imagine is buying into a church that is not really accepting of individuals, and having to save one's true self hidden. Many of us exmos hold tried doing this but in the end, it's really not necessary since there being a closeted Mormon doesn't seem to contain many benefits. But I guess we all choose a path and some people must experience they have
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Posted by: straightspouse ( ) Date: April 10, 2018 02:07PM
Any Mormon women here with Gay/Bi/Trans Husbands?
Hello,
I am writing a book about my experience as the wife of a closeted bisexual/gay Mormon man. And am interested in the stories of any other women who have also had this experience.
Does anyone have any recommendations as to books or blogs on this already.
I am a poster on The Straight Spouse network and would urge anyone struggling with this to inspect out their website as it is super beneficial in this difficult journey.
Please PM me if you would like to gain in touch.
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Posted by: CL2 ( ) Date: April 10, 2018 02:13PM
I'm one of the "old" ex-wives of gays on the board.
Some contain come and gone. I know gemini is still here.
I knew when I married him. Worked through church leaders back in 1983 and 1984 to 'save" him. He left me in 1996.
If you look under cl2 that is cL2 as in chlorine, not C one 2. I have posted a lot of stuff.
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'My Husband's Not Gay' Reality Reveal Faces Backlash
— -- A novel reality show featuring men who say they are attracted to men but do not determine themselves as gay is stirring up real-life controversy as thousands have signed a petition to stop the show.
“My Husband’s Not Gay” features what its network, TLC, calls “unconventional Mormon marriages.” Of the men featured in the show who are married, they are shown alongside their wives, who know about their husbands’ preferences and try to make their marriages work.
“I was office mates with one of my best friends and I said, ‘He told me he’s gay,’” one of the wives, Tanya, told ABC News, of her husband, Jeff. "And she goes, ‘I told you that, twice.'"
Jeff explains his orientation by comparing it to one’s favor for a certain type of food.
“You could say I’m oriented towards doughnuts and if I was being true to myself, I would eat doughnuts a lot more than I ingest doughnuts,” Jeff said. “But am I miserable? Am I lonely? Am I denying myself because I don’t eat doughnuts as I might like to nibble doughnuts? I’m not.”
A second couple featured on the show, Pret and Megan, met in Sunday School 17 years ago and