How can you tell if your son is gay
Gay children.. How in advance did you know?
Oh, to answer your other question.
when I realized he was likely gay I let the quasi-relationship with my father fade away, he never would own accepted it. The same with his mother. I prepared my own mother & my old flame in careful conversations over years so they would be able to consent him if or when he came out.
I worked with people at the school & counselors. I found him a GLBT teen support group in the area & drove him a couple of times. Then I drove back & picked him out w/out judgement when he was overwhelmed by the number of loud boisterous youth 10 minutes later. (my son has mild asperbers as well, he hasn't been social really & he's struggling with that too).
I let him comprehend, without mincing words, that I cherish & support him no matter who he is. I talked to him about taking his time figuring out what he wanted & who he is, but authorize him know I was there whenever he figured it out.
I never judged him for what appealed to him, in toys or in his style.
I did not allow any caring of discriminatory chat in my home.
And as silly as this seems, I introduced him to the show glee.
Help! My Son is Gay
by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director
“So should I push my son towards women now?” That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with same gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality. But the answer to their son’s struggle is not to push him into the arms of a woman. In proof, such a move could actually do more damage than good.
But what should a dad do for his son? In a word: connect! I perceive when saying that many dads might think, “I am joint to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.” But the fact is that simply being present doesn’t represent you have any kind of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can hear and know. Proclamations of facts do brief to move his heart. He wants words dripping with unprocessed emotion and heart-felt passion. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him. In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in his eyes and tell him how much you love him, how proud you are of him, and how you ponder he has what i
Dear Marcy,
Thank you for writing so openly and courageously about your situation. I’m so glad that your son has such a loving and supportive parent! This is not an easy situation to be in. As you said, your son may be gay, or he may not be. Gender statement and identity (as adv as masculinity or femininity) are aspects of a person that are separate and distinct from their sexual orientation. Your dread of bullying is a legitimate one. Interests and behaviors that are perceived as feminine in boys are often frowned upon by others, but thankfully, this does seem to be slowly changing in society.
I understand your temptation to discourage the action that may lead to bullying in an try to protect your son, but remember that trying to change what he does will not alter what he likes or who he is. And as you probably understand, these interests may not be a phase. As wonderful as your intentions would be in trying to change how he acts and what interests he pursues, the letter that he will overhear is that he is not OK the way he is. Instead, I would urge you to have honest discussions with your son about bullying and how to deal with it, and the fact that some people don’t yet un
Book Excerpt: Is Your Child Gay?
Excerpted fromWhy Is the Penis Shaped Like That? … And Other Reflections on Creature Human, by Jesse Bering, by arrangement with Scientific American/Farrar, Straus and Giroux, LLC (North America), Transworld Ltd (UK), Jorge Zahara Editora Ltda (Brazil). Copyright © 2012 by Jesse Bering.
We all know the stereotypes: an unusually soft , delicate, effeminate atmosphere in a small boy's step, an interest in dolls, makeup, princesses and dresses, and a strong distaste for rough play with other boys. In little girls, there is the outwardly boyish stance, perhaps a penchant for tools, a square-jawed readiness for physical tussles with boys, and an aversion to all the perfumed, delicate trappings of femininity.
These behavioral patterns are feared, loathed and often spoken of directly as harbingers of adult homosexuality. It is only relatively recently, however, that developmental scientists contain conducted controlled studies to identify the earliest and most reliable signs of adult homosexuality. In looking carefully at the childhoods of gay adults, researchers are finding an intriguing set of behavioral indicators that homosexuals seem to ha