Gay man and straight woman marriage
A gay man and a straight woman got married. They say it's not a 'lavender marriage' but founded on 'true pure love.'
Growing up gay and without examples of thriving marriages in his family, Jacob Hoff didn't reflect he'd ever get married — let alone to a woman.
But in November last year, Hoff, 31, married his longtime girlfriend, Samantha Wynn Greenstone, 37.
When Business Insider spoke to the LA-based couple in 2023, they explained that they were in a "mixed-orientation" relationship, meaning that they have different sexual orientations. Hoff is a gay man, and Greenstone is a straight woman.
The two musical theatre performers started off as finest friends, but started internet dating in 2017 when Greenstone admitted that she had romantic feelings for Hoff and he realized he felt the same way.
They've now been together for eight years in a monogamous relationship, and decided to tie the knot last year.
BI caught up with them to request about their wedding, future plans, and whether the way others see them has changed.
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To read the wife's take on this story, click here.
Like most couples, my wife and I, full of aspire and promise, walked down the corridor of the church where we married. We were both dedicated, Evangelical Christians. I was in the ministry at the time. We were young, in love, and believed that, with God on our side, the whole nature had been laid out before us.
But I was gay.
People frequently ask if my wife knew I was same-sex attracted when she married me. The respond is a bit more complicated than a simple yes or no. I had gone through an ex-gay ministry, the most known one in the country in truth, and was active for them when we got married. My wife and I believed I had been "healed" of my homosexuality, or was at least in the process of organism healed. Our faith taught us to trust, pray and believe that God could do miraculous things.
It wasn't too long into the marriage before we both began to sense something was wrong. There was an invisible wall that separated us emotionally. I wanted to believe it wasn't there and denied it vehemently when she brought it up. We prayed harder. I had sufficiently suppressed my sexuality in the years principal up to the marriage. I believed my lack of sexual
I’m a Straight Woman Who Married a Gay Man
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I met my husband 13 years ago, and we’ve been together ever since. We fell deeply, madly in love with each other and have been married for nine wonderful years now. He’s patient, kind, gentle-hearted. He’s also always been honest about organism gay and has never secret it from me. Only one of our mutual friends knows this about my husband. Our son also knows, since we thought it would be leading to remain open with him about it, so he never “found out” by surprise or from our mutual friend. Our son took the news very well and doesn’t care that his father was gay.
I’ve never told my family, or really any of my friends, as I think they’d all be judgmental. My siblings don’t favor my husband, but that’s a different letter in itself. So I’ve always kept it bottled up inside. He’s been married before, and div
The Gay Dude in the Unbent Marriage
Rob rushed into his first session with me, gym bag on one shoulder, briefcase on the other, 10 minutes late and out of breath. He set his bags down, gently put his Blackberry on the table in front of him, and heaved himself onto the couch. He sighed and began: “Okay, I’m gay, I’m married, I own three kids, and I’m not getting divorced.” He’d joint some of this information with me in our mobile conversation, but I was still struck by the instinct of hopelessness in his tone. As he paused, awaiting my response, quite honestly, I was awaiting my response as well. I knew this was not Rob’s first experience in therapy and that a lot was riding on what I was about to say.
Rob had been referred by a former client of mine he’d met in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. Just out of alcohol rehabilitation treatment, he’d begun attending AA meetings, where he’d shared parts of his story. He described a extended struggle with his sexual orientation, growing up in a devoutly Roman Catholic family, where he learned that his sexual attraction to men was result in for eternal dam